By Bhavanjot Kaur
“This world is our qualification, standard, examination—a place where we must examine ourselves in our own interest. We must learn to love ourselves before we love anybody else. We must honor ourselves before we honor anybody else. We must serve ourselves before we serve anybody else. If we do not know how to do things for ourselves, we shall not be in a position to do things for others.”
-Yogi Bhajan 7/24/96
While observing my five-year-old daughter as she engages and interacts with the world around her, I am often given greater clarity and simple solutions to life’s seemingly big concepts and challenges. She teaches me about self-love when she stands in front of the mirror and innocently, but confidently comments that she looks stunning as she combs through her hair.
She teaches me about self-honor when she stands up for herself and defends herself whether it is with kids on the playground not playing fairly, or with me when I lack compassion or understanding in her plight. She teaches me that I have the right to stand up for myself and to defend myself in this world, too.
When I ask her to share one of her treats with me and I watch as she stuffs three in her cheeks before serving me one, she eloquently teaches me about serving myself first.
I watch her make a mistake trying something new and she does not give up. She never gives up. I watch her fall down and she picks herself right back up to try again. She teaches me that falling down is just another opportunity to pick yourself back up again no matter how hard the fall.
She is a constant reminder to me that I am still finding my way in this world, even if I have been here a bit longer than her. My daughter’s presence in my daily life teaches me that self-love, self-honor, self-service and self-compassion are necessary for me because it is the only way that I can also be the giver of love, honor, service and compassion to her.
Very early on in my practice with Kundalini Yoga my teacher gave me a mantra to listen to. I played this mantra in my home in nearly every room all day and through the night. I was told that it is a mantra for protection. It is called Rakhay Rakhanhaar and the recording that I listened to at that time was by Singh Kaur.
This mantra holds a very special place in my heart because it is connected with my beautiful child who is also a recent cancer survivor. I will never forget the day that I was given my daughter’s spiritual name, which is Rakha Kaur.
The mantra Rakhay Rakhanhaar had penetrated our world in such a profound way already, and then this name was given to my child. Suddenly the mantra was given a life form to me because, in essence, my daughter radiates the beauty, the protection, the honor, the power, the love, the compassion and the challenge that this sound current carries for me.
The mantra Rakhay Rakhanhaar is used in the Compassion Kriya. This meditation can be used as a tool to awaken our compassionate heart. We can practice self-compassion so that we will be in a position to offer compassion to others. God is within us and around us always in the spirit of life and in the quest for compassionate living.
The fourth sutra of the Aquarian Age calls upon us all to understand through compassion or we will misunderstand the times.
“The highest status that we can enjoy in a human life is self-compassion.”
-Yogi Bhajan 5/13/92
Bhavanjot Kaur is the owner and founder of Hamsa Healing Arts in Old Saybrook, CT. Bhavanjot is a Kundalini yoga teacher, Reiki Master & Teacher, Craniosacral therapy practitioner and she also offers sound therapy with a 32" gong. Bhavanjot hosts a local women's circle and various workshops on therapeutic grade essential oils, medicinal mushrooms and The Art of Reiki Levels I and II. She is a proud single mother to a beautiful and delightful four-year-old little girl who overcame a rare childhood kidney cancer.