By Guruka Singh Khalsa
Gender roles are in flux, and the rate of change is accelerating. The man of the 21st century is quite different from 20th century man. As we come out of the age of power and control, characterized by competition, dominance and the effort to prove our own superiority, we move into the age of sensitivity and awareness, characterized by intuition, compassion and the desire to elevate others and enjoy their excellence.
The Piscean Age was the ugliest Age—an era in which the female was rooted out from her roots and exploited to the brink and to the brim by men. The male/female relationship didn't have any strength. It didn't have any character. It didn't have any taste. So females in the past century gave birth to some of the most fearful, insecure, impotent, or oversexed men, and sexual disorder was worse than ever before in the past 3,000 years.
The men whom you called great in the last century wanted to indulge in the power of destruction. That's why we created the atom bomb, the hydrogen bomb, smart bombs, we had two wars; and we killed more people in the name of religion than anything else. And religion did not become reality, but an ugly fanaticism.
–Yogi Bhajan “The Self-Sensory Human”
In the Aquarian Age there is an androgynous quality to both sexes. Think of the Buddha. Is the Buddha male or female? Men find their true strength as men by recognizing and using the energy of the feminine that lies within all men.
Most of us have learned to wear many masks. We are one person to our parents, a different person to our business associates, yet a different person to our friends and someone else again to our woman.
When we relax into who we really are and become at ease with our own identity, and when we acknowledge ourselves as servants, as channels for the Divine, then we drop the facades of ego and live naturally and spontaneously in the moment no matter whom we find ourselves with. It no longer becomes about how we wish to appear or who we wish to please, but rather about being fully present with each person who comes into our presence.
[In the Aquarian Age] People will be open, straight, simple, and their beauty will be internal, not external. Both men and women are going to reach out with such dignity, such devotion, such an elevated loftiness of self, and the beauty of the human character will be so bewitching, that not only will the ones who are willing be enjoying and realizing, but also their realization will be so profound that no destructive temptation by another person will work.
–Yogi Bhajan 1/8/00
This way of being is not dependent on circumstances. It is not dependent on environments. It is not dependent on whatever tests or hardships we may be facing. It simply is being who we are. Being this way gives grace under all circumstances and conditions.
We'll master ourselves through our service, through our character, through our commitment, and through the most powerful thing that we have—our grace. Our individual grace is the most wanted quality today. And our projection, which will give us satisfaction, fulfillment, and exaltation, is our nobility. We will act nobly, graciously, kindly, and compassionately. These are our essential features.
–Yogi Bhajan “The Self-Sensory Human”
Our job as men is not to be “manly” but rather to be human. The path to living as a hu-man being (one whose mind is filled with the Light of God and whose projection and presence touches all hearts) is the path of balance: balance of mind, body and spirit. It’s easy to be a fanatic and it’s easy to be lazy. What requires discipline is to live in balance.
The signs of a man who lives in this manner are easy to see. He lives in joy. His behavior is kind to everyone. (Not “nice” but rather kind and compassionate.) He speaks universal truth. He does not cater to anyone. He does not want anything from anyone (except for others to be excellent.) He never compromises his values for benefits. He shares whatever is given to him. He behaves in a manner that clearly shows that he knows at every moment that the other person is him.
A sound man’s heart is not shut within itself but is open to other people’s hearts.
I find good people good, and I find bad people good.
If l am true enough, I trust men of their word and I trust liars.
If I am true enough, I feel the heartbeats of others above my own.
If I am enough of a father and enough of a son.
- Lao Tzu
Guruka Singh Khalsa is the founder and Chief Executive Officer of Sikhnet. He is a teacher, writer, and inveterate punster. At SikhNet he does management, administration, business networking, fundraising, communication, and teaching. He is a source of inspiration to SikhNet staff as well as the entire “cybersangat.” He has been featured in over 70 SikhNet video interviews.http://www.sikhnet.com