The mother is the first teacher and the father is recognized as the second teacher. Each role defines a specific polarity of life and a different aspect of divine wisdom. Every relationship we have plays on these initial experiences, stirring memories of our own mother and father.
The role of the mother as the first teacher is responsible for the female developing her authentic identity and embracing her sacred feminine. Once the child is born, the mother is both teacher and guide, the Gurdev Mata. She is the primary foundation and first influence, providing the child with security and love. Her authentic and intimate relationships show the child the way to trust.
When this basic need for security and love is not fulfilled, the child reacts, developing unfounded fears and lashing out with undifferentiated anger. Gradually innocence is lost. We forget that we are a royal part of God and stop trusting anything except ourselves. We lose touch with the flow of life, with our authentic nature. We lose our sense of unconditional love and our willingness to commit freely.
We are a reflection of our first teachers. Our soul chose these teachers (our mother and father) and this experience as we came into this life. So we must accept the challenges from them and the grace provided by them whether they fulfill their divine identities or not.
When these teachers do not have a strong foundation in their own divine identity, we form distorted beliefs about relationships and the world around us. We become frustrated. lt is easy to become angry in childhood and then hold onto that anger for the remainder of our lives, becoming lost in deep-seated patterns of frustration instead of enjoying the blessings of this precious human life that even the gods and angels are said to covet.
Yet, as we embrace personal responsibility for our own life and our reactions to it, we are empowered to rewrite our past rather than stay imprisoned by it. We can free ourselves from the entanglements of reactions, patterns, and habits through awareness, forgiveness, and the steady, continual practice of authenticity.
© 2006 Kundalini Research Institute
Excerpt from KRI International Teacher Training Manual Level 2, Authentic Relationships