It is not possible to live in today’s society without a cozy home. What is a cozy home? A cozy home is a place where there is a unity in all those who live there, an understanding in all those who relate to it. There is a will to sacrifice for each other; there is a will to live for each other; there is a will to protect each other.
Many things you are already practicing; but you practice them under fear. But if you practice them under love they become Divine.
Love is nothing but giving, tolerating and sacrificing.
If you can do any favor for yourself, if you want to understand yourself, if you really want to build anything for yourself, try to make a plan to have a cozy home and a cozy partner. When even God may leave you, your partner should not—that kind of partner; a partner who does not know how to part. If your partner knows that he can part, he does not yet have the power to unite.
Love is the ultimate state of human behavior where compassion prevails and kindness rules.
The greatest investment and greatest fair deal and enterprise is family, cozy homes. A cozy home is based on cozy people. Cozy people are not brought and imported, they are made from the time of birth to the time of infinity. 5/27/76
You want to know about a good man? Man is the one who can carry the home and the family and have the strength to keep that weight going; woman is that which can nurture and nurse and be herself and can keep her radiance and have the strength of that. 5/2/90
Mostly your love is passionate force. But when this passionate force turns itself to be a compassionate force under the guidance of compassionate intelligence, that is where one becomes brahm giani. One knows all, one sees all, one says all.
What is a cozy home? Where you enter and you feel the radiance of your divine self.
If you cannot put the ego on the side you cannot succeed in love, period. Therefore love must defeat it.
Kundalini Yoga was made for householders. It was not for the upper class. It was developed so that any household can successfully process through life with absolute dignity, divinity, and identity.
Seven years ago when I came, I said to you that I'll teach you how to be healthy, happy and holy and we will build a family which shall not have any facet of human life as an orphan; to build an exclusive family in which there is no facet of our life which is an orphan. 'In God we trust,' We are the trust of God and let us live it. 5/27/76
A family is not built just by marrying a woman and producing children. Family is built with a timeless sacrifice which must represent purity, unity, standard of ethics, righteousness, grace, dignity, divinity and principles.
Two people may have one sensitivity, one action, one reaction and one feeling; it doesn't matter how much time and distance they have between themselves—that is the state of ultimate love.
The unit of every country is the family and the strength of the country is based on the smiles of the children and songs of the adults.
If love could be purchased, everybody would have paid a thousand dollars a pound for it. You know it doesn't work that way.
Love without trust does not exist. Love is a strength of trust. Trust is the test of love. When you love, you trust each other. When you don't, you don't. Don't camouflage the word "love" and not trust each other.
God lives in cozy homes. Happiness, which a cozy home can give you, is so divine on this Earth, you don't need anything more than that. God is unseen but His creation is known and seen. What is known and seen for you, if you cannot relate to that how can you relate to the unknown? If you can relate knowingly to your unknown thought, you can always find happiness. But you have to have nerves for it. You have to have a mental capacity for it, you have to have trained yourself, and this is the part of that training I have come to share with you.
Love means total interest; love means total creativity; love means total input. Who has that for you? Who has given you values? Who has given you character? Who has told you, “Stand for righteousness and I'll stand behind you”?
Love fundamentally is the most powerful ecstasy of consciousness, and even if a person goes blind, there is no question when you are in love.
The three salient features of love are: Where there is love, there is no question. Where there is love, there is no pain. Where there is love, there is nothing impossible.
A cozy home is not just a sixty-five thousand dollar house bought from Bank of America. A cozy home is a total consciousness of the two individuals within the framework of the home, and in relationship to the entire surrounding of this planet and beyond this planet. God lives in cozy homes.
If you do not love yourself to the depth of totality, you will never love love as a reality.
Love knows no pain, no sacrifice is too much for it; it is an absolute one-pointed state of mind toward the well-being of the other person who is called lover or beloved.
Above all there's a love which is real, the ultimate love. We merge not only physically, but mentally and spiritually, in arc-line, aura and subtle body. We amalgamate with each other. That is real love.
Today in the west we are asking the question, why is man unhappy? Answer is very simple. We have created a very fast society but we do not have a cozy home, and without a cozy home we do not have a mental state of nerve relaxed personality. Without having a mental state of nerve relaxed personality, you cannot face this fastness of the outer world; it's impossible.
Do you know what love is? Love is an absolute power of self-totality. Love is not what you think love is. Love is a strength. Love is a goodness, like Godliness. There is no limit to it. There is no shortage in it. There is no bargaining in it.
Where there is love, there is no question. Where there is a question, there is no love. Then it becomes a business. So love is the totality of the self. My dear folks, if you cannot find yourself, you can never find anybody you want to find.
Love is a process in which ego is lost and infinity is experienced.
Whenever you remember me, now or hereafter, one word you must remember: God only lives in cozy homes. Man without a cozy home is a man without God. And coziness is the relationship between you and your purity, your piety and your principles to which you have agreed. 1/10/77
Physical love must end up as a creative love. And creative love must end up as a divine love. And divine love must end up as a unison love. And unison love must become God Itself. These are the known stages of love.
If the entire divinity and domain of God sits in the heart of a person, and his longing becomes timeless, then man can develop the capacity to love.
(I am a Woman, p. 186)
Time and space cannot play any part between two loving hearts.
Who's your soul's mate? Consciousness. Soul is your conscious mate. Guru keeps you conscious.
Hate nobody; love everybody. It won’t cost you anything. Love never costs anything. Love is the most selfish act. It gives you so much protection, grace, and radiance. It doesn’t give you any smallness or suffering. The attitude of conscious living is to love and give grace to someone worthy of your trust. Do not seek anything from people. Give love instead, and rely on God.
(Physical Wisdom p.35)
The path which we believe in is the path of love; it has all the goodness of God in it—calmness and kindness.
“I love you but you didn’t bring me flowers.” Your love is hanging on flowers! You are seasonal, conditional, demanding and bargaining. Love is not a bargain. Love is not a business. It cannot be bought and sold. It has no condition. When you put a condition on love, it evaporates.
Where there’s love there’s no limit; where there’s a limit, there’s no love.
Love without trust is a river without water.
This grossness, physical love, which is actually the biological cooling system, is very essential. The prana feeds the tattvas and the tattvas create the rasa. Rasa means juices. The juices circulate and in that circulation the glandular system works and involves itself. And there's a place to bring it all to harmony.
It's very difficult for people, because when you purify yourself with love you have to merge. Anything in the world is easier to merge than two egos.
July 7, 1987
Do you know what love is? It is the most beautiful, comprehensive, divine, pranic energy given to you by God, which you should have experienced. But what did you do? You turned it into mucous and saliva and you call it kisses and hugs and sex.
The fact is, if a person has not experienced the love of his or her soul, within one’s self, there is no chance that that person can go out and love, even though it is a faculty of love that you most powerfully need.
Find friends and not lovers; you will win the game of life.
Let somebody prove friendship which time and space cannot jolt, and then accept the love. Don’t accept the love first and then find the friendship; it will never come. You have lost the game.
People who love each other don’t bargain. Love has no such thing as business. Love has no conditions, because love does not obey time and space.
You think that when you love somebody you have to totally follow him or her. No, that's not love. When you love somebody, you have to be totally truthful with that person.
The greatest demand is not to demand anything, and the greatest service of love is not to turn it into a business: "You kiss me, I'll bring flowers to you. I brought flowers to you, why didn't you kiss me?"-your American way.
You have no sensitivity that your soul shall leave in the subtle body and that your subtle body is as sophisticated as anything in the universe can be. So unless you produce in yourself elegance, grace, sophisticatedness in your mind, manners and attitude, and unless you come from the infinite altitude, and ascend to that altitude, you cannot descend in love. The higher is your being, the deeper is the love.
Why not play one game to become timeless and one with God? That is the game of how you recognize and love your own deep truth in life. When you can play just one game that is boundless in time and space, then all others stop. The measure of the game is how near you are to your own truth, to the reality in your soul.
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© The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan