Love is the ultimate state of human behavior where compassion prevails and kindness rules.
“Why are there quarrels between husband and wife? Because they have never tried to become one. They are still two who are living under one roof. They are still two who are sleeping in one bed. They are still two who are managing one home. They are still two; one is driving the car and one is sitting and sleeping on the side. But they have not yet become one. Marriage is when two become one.”
Merger of everything in the world is easy, except for two egos. The law of ego is that it never merges. When “I” lives, “Thou” will never come in. The only way for “Thou” to come in is that the “I” has to be eliminated. The fight is between “I” and “Thou.” The fight is not between two human beings. So if your love affair falls apart, don’t misunderstand. You can’t save it because you can’t love it. You can’t love it because you do not have the control on your ego. If you cannot put your ego to the side, you cannot succeed in love. Period.
It is not possible to live in today’s society without a cozy home. What is a cozy home? A cozy home is a place where there is a unity in all those who live there, an understanding in all those who relate to it. There is a will to sacrifice for each other; there is a will to live for each other; there is a will to protect each other.
Many things you are already practicing; but you practice them under fear. But if you practice them under love they become Divine.
Love is nothing but giving, tolerating and sacrificing.
Just remember, every soul is a God and every soul is a test for you. Every soul is testing how you're behaving; how you're reacting; how you're projecting; how your aggression and progression is. Are you lying? Are you scared? What's your relationship?
Success and the Spirit, p. 130
If you can do any favor for yourself, if you want to understand yourself, if you really want to build anything for yourself, try to make a plan to have a cozy home and a cozy partner. When even God may leave you, your partner should not—that kind of partner; a partner who does not know how to part. If your partner knows that he can part, he does not yet have the power to unite.
The greatest investment and greatest fair deal and enterprise is family, cozy homes. A cozy home is based on cozy people. Cozy people are not brought and imported, they are made from the time of birth to the time of infinity.
You want to know about a good man? Man is the one who can carry the home and the family and have the strength to keep that weight going; woman is that which can nurture and nurse and be herself and can keep her radiance and have the strength of that.
Mostly your love is passionate force. But when this passionate force turns itself to be a compassionate force under the guidance of compassionate intelligence, that is where one becomes brahm giani. One knows all, one sees all, one says all.
What is a cozy home? Where you enter and you feel the radiance of your divine self.
If you cannot put the ego on the side you cannot succeed in love, period. Therefore love must defeat it.
Kundalini Yoga was made for householders. It was not for the upper class. It was developed so that any household can successfully process through life with absolute dignity, divinity, and identity.
Love knows no pain, no sacrifice is too much for it; it is an absolute one-pointed state of mind toward the well-being of the other person who is called lover or beloved.
Time and space cannot play any part between two loving hearts.
“I love you but you didn’t bring me flowers.” Your love is hanging on flowers! You are seasonal, conditional, demanding and bargaining. Love is not a bargain. Love is not a business. It cannot be bought and sold. It has no condition. When you put a condition on love, it evaporates.
Where there’s love there’s no limit; where there’s a limit, there’s no love.
Let somebody prove friendship which time and space cannot jolt, and then accept the love. Don’t accept the love first and then find the friendship; it will never come. You have lost the game. Find friends and not lovers; you will win the game of life.
People who love each other don’t bargain. Love has no such thing as business. Love has no conditions, because love does not obey time and space.
You think that when you love somebody you have to totally follow him or her. No, that's not love. When you love somebody, you have to be totally truthful with that person.
The greatest demand is not to demand anything, and the greatest service of love is not to turn it into a business: "You kiss me, I'll bring flowers to you. I brought flowers to you, why didn't you kiss me?"
Don’t count the deficiencies and demerits of your comrade or partner in life. Remember the merits and add as many as you can. Count your graces, your blessings, and worry not for tomorrow.
Invoke, don’t provoke.
Where amalgamation takes place, a new metal comes out of the two. A new ego comes out of the two. A new identity comes of the two. And it is forever; it is not only for today and not tomorrow. Everything can come to an end. Even life can come to an end. But one thing even God cannot end: the desire to be one in each other. This desire even God cannot take away.
Why not play one game to become timeless and one with God? That is the game of how you recognize and love your own deep truth in life. When you can play just one game that is boundless in time and space, then all others stop. The measure of the game is how near you are to your own truth, to the reality in your soul.
-The Mind page 55
©The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan