Turning Loneliness to Oneness
Excerpts from a lecture by Yogi Bhajan on March 29, 1987
You do not know who you are. You do not know you are unique. You are One. The oneness in you, you have not found. That's why people take everything away from you. That's why you want socializing, and society, and relations. How bizarre and berserk these relationships are. You all want it, because the one relationship you needed with the One has not been established.
I'm not saying that you should not relate to people and be nice to them and serve them and play with them. Loneliness means that in that state of consciousness, you see everybody as You. That oneness, that loneliness, is a state of consciousness when you do not see anyone other than you. One focus, one picture, one meditation, one consciousness, one feeling, one emotion.
What is pain? You don't have satisfaction. How can you have satisfaction when you do not accept loneliness as the highest state of consciousness? What happened to you in an ecstasy? You want to go up, up, up, up, up. You want to go more, more, more. You want to go higher, higher, higher than all. When you reach the top of all, you become One. Lonely. Exclusive. In that exclusive oneness, the loneliness, the One within you is awakened. And within you is that Infinite teacher, that's called the “soul.” You asked for it; you work for it; you do it. And then you cry?
The purpose of life is to reach a state of consciousness where there is no peer group, period. Only then can you become a giver. Before that you can't give anybody anything; you are in a business of give and take. But when you give and give and give, and for the sake of giving you live, then you become Ik - One. Then you have to have no peer group. One is very lonely. It has its own beginning; it has its own end and its own process.
You're all afraid to become lonely. You do not know what to do with your loneliness, because you do not know how to give. Give your loneliness—that oneness, that ecstasy, that state of higher consciousness—then nobody can match you, nobody can reach you. Then all you become [is] heaven, heaven becomes you.
All you have to do is uplift other people, share that oneness of that ecstasy of consciousness, that loneliness, and let people know it is good to be lonely—because “lonely” has three things in it: purity, infinity, and grace (ecstasy). When three ingredients—purity, ecstasy, and infinity, get together and amalgamate with each other, one becomes lonely. One becomes One. Are there two gods? There is but One God. If there is but One God, then there is but one you, there is but one me. “I am, I am.”
Now tell me, if you do not survey where you are going—which road, which freeway you have to take, how can you get to your destination? In the travel of the soul, we call it “destiny.” In the travel of a man, we call it destination. There's no difference. And everybody goes alone. Even that driver who has six passengers in the car is alone and is the driver by designation. Designation, distance, destiny. It's the same thing. You are designated as a human being for the destiny to become One. It is a very long, lonely road. Nobody else can travel on it with you, match up with you, understand you or be with you, because you are very special, made by the One in the image of One's own self. For convenience, you call it “God.”
Death is going Home and everything should be counted, cared for. We all have to go to the One. One is in the beginning, One is the now, and One is the end. Those of you who are sitting here do not understand that the beginning and the end is the same. You are not humans. You do not know what the reality of life is. The beauty of life is: now, beginning, and end is the same. That is called living. That is called loving. And that is called being—being “now.”
Loneliness does not mean that you can't share with others. It is only the One, lonely, who can share with all. Loneliness is a very accepted righteous state of consciousness, which is achieved by the saints. When you become lonely and you'll not love yourself, then you'll have tears, you'll have pain. It does not reach the uniqueness of the loneliness of the oneness of the One, the highest of all. Unconsciously you all reach for oneness. Consciously you all deny it.
When you have to say nothing, do nothing, be nothing, then what are you? You know what you are? You are a lighthouse, so nobody else can wreck near you. That is the one thing in life you have to do. Forklift. Spread the light. Be the lighthouse. So every journey, every destiny, every distance can be safe.
What you have to offer at the last clang of the death, why not give it up yourself? Why not die when you are alive? The English word for being dead when alive is “compassion.” The state of compassion is when you do not recognize any other identity other than you. You'll have no fear, and you'll have no vengeance, because you'll be alone. Loneliness, the oneness, is the ultimate reality of all times and all ingredients. All tattwas merge to be one. I urge you to create a surge to merge with one lonely being called God.
© 1987 The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan